Monday, June 19, 2006

How Would You Like to Die?

This question was asked on Jocelyn Ryder's Question of the Week email survey. The following answers were provided by her readers. Feel free to provide your own answer in the comments section of this post. If you are interested in joining Jocelyn's Question of the Week email list, please contact her directly at orangegrl13 at earthlink dot net.

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Without getting too deep -- after *finishing* a big bowl of premium mint chocolate ice cream -- at peace, close to nature, and ready for a nice surprise.


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O.K.


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i can say for sure how i would NOT like to die: in a car crash, a fire, by drowning, war, gunshot, stabbing, poison, (unless it was gentle, but not many are), or any other violent or otherwise painful death. ABOVE ALL, i would NOT like to die alone.

i think the way to go for me would be surrounded by loved ones, in a cabin, maybe, near a lake, a gentle cool breeze blowing through the window, rustling the flowers that are everywhere in the room, cat at the foot of the bed, dog nestled in my arm, my lover, my wife, by my side, holding my hand telling me she'll see me soon, that it's going to be alright, stroking my hair the way my mom used to do when i was a boy. and with the swell of love in my heart that would last the rest of her life, and a deep sleepy sigh of the dog, i'm gone.

i'd want to know too that after i go there would be a celebration, a party; and that all of our friends and family was there to say good bye in a really good way, to have fun with the life they still have, and love each other, if not for themselves, then at least for the day, to honor me.

i'd also like to be remembered. interesting. i get a pang of feeling like that would be asking too much for some reason. i don't really think it's asking too much.


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I wouldn't like to die.


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I would like to die peacefully. But only after achieving my goal of establishing my rescue/sanctuary so that it lives in perpetuity and to get laws established that would make animal cruelty a felony with a mandatory 10 years imprisonment and a mandatory $10,000 fine.


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the thought of death is so scary to me that i have panic attacks about it; most recent thought and attack was yesterday

but if i must die, i would like to go in my sleep


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peacefully while I'm dreaming. Hopefully after a life well-lived, and after I feel ready to go.


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I would like to die in my sleep ... but would like to be very aware that I might "go" at any time and to have accepted that fate ... so I could still say my 'goodbyes.'


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Unexpectedly.


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When I was younger, I always wanted to die by getting hit by lightening. I thought it would be such a great, dramatic end to a drama-filled life. Then my ex's uncle got hit by lightening and became a vegetable and I changed my mind - what if the lightening didn't do the job and I, too, ended up a vegetable? That would just bite. Now I'd prefer a slower death - like cancer. Something with a relatively predictable course, so I'd have time to say goodbye to loved ones. Preferrably not too drawn out, as I've always hated lingering goodbyes. So maybe metastatic cancer or pancreatic cancer (if the pain was well-managed). In terms of the other end of the hows - I'd like to be surrounded by loved ones and comfortable (pain, nausea, anxiety all well-managed). Oh! And I'd like to get daily massages for at least the last week of my life.


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In my sleep at the same time as my husband.


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Sober, and without pain (prolonged or otherwise).



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Peacefully in my sleep. No dramatic exits for me! The most important thing is that its painless. I'm not afraid of death, only pain.



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so trippy that you are asking that right now...i have
started reading the tibetan book of living and dying
because of some deep inner sense that was telling me
that i really wanted to learn HOW to die...don't know
why exactly that desire to learn about dying came up
in me, just trusted it...i am learning that death is a
process, that we can prepare for death by learning how
to live...learning how to live in our deep essential,
eternal self....through meditation, through remaining
calm through all the manifestations of mind....through
what the author calls 'calm abiding'...love that
term....calm abiding....not easy....such a worthwhile,
beautiful practice....so, i would like to die
calmly...really rooted in the light, in the truth of
who i am...deeply connected to my god self...i would
like to be very old and very content with what i have
done with my time on earth....i would like to be lying
in my warm, cozy bed in my home surrounded by family,
partner, children, grandchildren, animals....looking
out over the calm lake and beautiful lush green trees
and mountains that have nourished me so deeply...i
would like to breathe in, breathe out, breathe in,
breathe out, gently, with so much love and so much
gratitude and peace...transition softly, gracefully,
peacefully...that is what i would like....



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In my sleep!



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Not sure. I just don't want to be alone.



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without regrets



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Quietly (but not in my sleep – I want to know when I’m dying) at a very old age. Maybe I hear my great grandchildren running around downstairs. Maybe it’s very quiet, either way (selfishly) I want my partner by my side, holding my hand... Of course that means I won’t be there for him and that makes me sad... However I go I want to be satisfied. I don’t want to taint the experience with regrets...



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something i never think about.

how i don't want to die: as the result of a street crime.



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With as little pain and as much of my faculties as possible after a long life.
In my sleep and old is the answer I think.



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i will
but
I won't


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I would like to die admired, well respected, and in my sleep.



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After a long life. With people I care about at my
side. Having done most of the things I want to try
while on this planet. Having loved much. Having made
soome kind of a difference. Having seen my kids
enjoying their lives and hopefully my grandkids too.
The thought of being seperated from my kids is very,
very hard-this is the hardest thing to accept about
death-that I can't be with them once I fly out of this
body. But more than anything, I want them to outlive
me.



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"Settin' " on the front porch in my rocking chair, holding hands with my elderly husband, and just nodding off.



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In my sleep, after going to a party where I saw
everyone I loved.



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Fly off in a little prop plane, two or three of us, and disappear--never be heard from again; no wreckage, or any other trace. Amelia Earhart style. Of course, this scenario also includes me being known by more people than just family and friends. I'd love to contribute to celebrity mystery deaths, like Rudolph Diesel going missing on a cruise across the English Channel, or Mallory vanishing on the slopes of Mt. Everest in the '20s. (They found him about two years ago--spoils the whole saga.)

That's just the PR aspect of dying, though--how I'd like it to look to the outside world. As far as what it would be like here inside my body...I guess I'll take the sudden heart attack. I'm out walking one fine day, and I slump over, and that's it. It might be nice to have time to say long good-byes to friends, but that means lying in a hospital bed with morphine racing through my veins. Not too wild about that.


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And Jocelyn's answer...


Successfully defending a woman from being raped or attacked on the street. Preventing a child from being hurt or molested.

Or: laughing.

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

suicide...

nelc said...

say you goodbyes then sleep and never wake up.

Skandaprasad S said...

Fall off the tallest peak in the world into the valley, looking at all the beauty around and bang --- Death in an instant.

It would be something no one would have experienced and who experienced would not live to tell the beautiful sight.

Anonymous said...

skandaprasad s, It's called a parachute or free basing.. You should try it.

Anonymous said...

Being hit by a meteorite, I mean who has ever died by a meteorite? Then my name will remain in history. Peaple won't say ''Ohh he died by this illness, ohh he died in his sleep''. They will say ''Dude, he was hit by a freakin meteorite! Man what are the possibilities...''

Anonymous said...

Trampled by a stampede of really cute bunnies